I am a first time mom. I know it’s not an excuse. But where do I start? And how? My husband and I would always end up arguing for the same issue. How to raise a child? A 15 month old daughter. He is very lenient. I am not. He tolerates her. I do, but not every time.

Yesterday, we saw her eating the foam from our sofa. I punished her by letting her sit in one corner. She did. I didn’t have to say it twice, she understood, with her eyebrows wrinkled. I beat her palm (not so hard, after doing it, I always feel guilty but….), to let her know that what she has done is wrong. But when I do, my husband would always take her side, “she still doesn’t know what she’s doing”. And I would stick to my line “kids are smarter than us, they know exactly what they are doing”. And we’ll go on and on and on…. arguing….